School is out, the heat is on, and the parties are in full swing. Before you and the family join in the fun, it's important that everyone puts their best sun-kissed foot forward. Today, Parents Ask resident expert Lisa Gache of Beverly Hills Manners shares her top tips for party etiquette. From hosting the perfect BBQ, to attending a pool party, to staying as a houseguest, manners are key... especially if you want to get invited back!

BBQ Etiquette

•    Clean your BBQ before guests arrive and make sure BBQ tools are handy and work properly.

•    Preheat the grill and allow plenty of time to heat so that cooking time is efficient.

•    Arm your backyard with insect repellent such as citronella candles and an electric bug zapper.

•    Designate one key grillmaster and then let them do their job.   No backseat grilling please.

•    Provide cleansing wipes for sticky foods and toothpicks to remove kernels of corn from teeth.

 

4th of July & Other Summer Parties 

•    RSVP within 48 hours of receiving a party invitation as your host will want a head count ASAP.

•    Arrive with a small gift such as a homemade dessert or decorative item for the home.

•    Wear appropriate swimsuits and cover ups, especially if young children are around.

•    Be well-prepared and bring your own sunscreen, towels, toys for the kids, snacks, etc.

•    Pace yourself on the festive drinks, especially if you are the designated driver.

•    Refrain from lighting firecrackers in front of small children.  They are dangerous. 

•    WATCH your own children!!!  Do not rely on others to ensure their safety.

•    If it’s a family-friendly gathering, think about refraining from alcoholic beverages altogether.

 

House-hosting

•    Ask if there are any special food requests or dietary restrictions before guests arrive.

•    Store lots of fresh fruit, veggies and snacky foods for quick, easy bites.

•    Make sure accommodations are well-stocked with room essentials and clean linens.

•    Upon arrival it is especially important to make your guests feel welcome and comfortable.

•    Arrange fun activities for parents and children alike.

•    Plan one special evening in for a big celebratory BBQ with all the trimmings.

•    Organize one special evening out with the gang to a local restaurant.

 

Houseguesting

•    Make sure to bring a gift of appreciation and thanks upon arrival.

•    Offer to contribute to the purchase of groceries throughout your stay.

•    Keep your belongings neat and tidy and make your beds each morning. 

•    Adjust to your host’s schedule.  If they rise early, so do you!

•    Do not make plans with other friends while you are a guest in someone's home.

•    Treat your host to a special night out for dinner.

•    Do not overstay your welcome.  It is always best to leave on a high note.  

•    Send a thank you note with photos to convey your most sincere thanks for a wonderful time.

 

Lisa Gache is the founder of Beverly Hills Manners and author of ProtoCallOut.com.

See Also:

-Top Rules for RSVP'ing

-Playdate 101: The DO's and DON'Ts of Playing Nice

-Obesity: Could it Be Better Managed with Manners?