Recently, Parents Ask expert Dr. Bonnie Zucker, Psy.D shared her thoughts about when to take your child to a behavioral specialist.  Today, she takes it a step further and answers a general concern that most parents ask at least once in their life: Is My Child's Behavior Normal?

A: I always encourage parents to assume that most of their child's behavior is normal, especially when they compare it to same-age/same-sex peers. But there are "red flags" to look for (in addition to the info I provided below re: how to look for symptoms or behavior that cause an impairment): frequent negative comments about themselves ("I'm such a loser. I hate myself"), any thoughts about wanting to die ("I just wish I was dead"), signifcant difficulty with sleeping (more nights than not), and any sudden change in behavior (e.g., suddenly not eating, suddenly not talking).

Pediatricians are always a good starting point and do receive general training in the psychological development of children, and can often help determine if personalty traits/behaviors are within the normal range. However, if psychological treatment is needed, they will need to refer to a mental health professional.

With children who have frequent behavioral meltdowns, parents my start by examining and modifying their discipline approach, and this is a good first step (as opposed to immediately bringing the child in). Trained clinicians can help parents with this process if needed.

Want more advice? Check out Dr. Bonnie Zucker's book, Anxiety-Free Kids: An Interactive Guide for Parents and Children.

See Also:

-Does My Child Need a Behavioral Specialist?

-Sleep Problems Affect Behavior in Children!

-ADHD: How to Identify a Problem